30 Day Writing Challenge | Day 19


Day 19: Discuss your first love.

As I’ve said in previous posts, I don’t feel like I’ve ever been in love with another person romantically, and I think that’s what this prompt is referring to. So I can’t really blog about that for you. I wish I could say that there was a high school sweetheart or a college love, but I’ve not had that. I’ve had plenty of boyfriends, but none that amounted to real love. Instead of writing about that, I’m going to write about a few other “first love” situations.

When I was really young, as young as 3 and 4, I loved maps and puzzles. I would put together map puzzles of the world and of various countries, and would tell everyone about all the different places I could see. This was the point that my United Kingdom love affair began. I did my UK puzzle over and over and over again until it basically fell apart. Apparently I loved the shapes and colors of it and didn’t want to do any others. Once that was destroyed, I was given little books and things by family about the UK and all things British; they all found it so funny that I had this little obsession as a toddler. Eventually, as I grew older, I began learning about the history, the monarchy, and the geography of the countries and fell even more in love. Aside from that, I gained a real love for geography from my map and puzzle obsession. I don’t know that there is a subject (aside from writing and literature) that I excelled in more.

Reading. I can’t think of a time in my life that didn’t revolve around books and reading. I can remember vividly being read to as a child, all the time. I was lucky enough to have been taught to read at an early age, before entering school, so I was reading at a higher level than most of my peers as I grew. I may be absolutely crap at math, but reading is something I can most assuredly say I am spectacular at. The first “real” book I ever read on my own was Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone, and I was hooked. I have read all the books in the series cover to cover more times than I can count. It was an outlet for me, to be able to jump into a magical world so vastly different from my own when things got particularly hard at home or when I wasn’t having the best time socially at school. I didn’t have the simplest childhood or teen years, but books and my imagination helped me through it. Reading will always be a part of my life, from my “first love” book of Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone, to every book I’ve read since then, they have all inspired me in their own ways.

Lastly, my niece and nephew. I didn’t have the best family life growing up. Nothing was very stable, there were a lot of fights, and things just weren’t very pleasant at times. I wasn’t really sure what love was when I was young. I was never sure whether or not my family loved me, or if I loved them even. It was all really complicated. But the day my niece was born, and I was able to hold her and experience her very first day in the world with her, I knew what love was. I was only ten, but I knew that she was going to be someone very special in my life. I didn’t think it was possible to ever love anyone as much as I loved that chunky little monkey, but then her brother was born, and I fell just as in love with his sweet little face the moment I saw him as I did with my niece. Those two absolutely mad children are my whole world, and I couldn’t be happier that they are the people that helped me realize what love really is.

How about you, have you ever been in love? I’d love to hear about it.

I hope you’re doing well, where ever you are in the world, and I wish you all the best.

-Lexie Xx

33 thoughts on “30 Day Writing Challenge | Day 19

  1. Which part of England would you like to go to? Read my post about my ex gf Gemma for my first proper love or first time I should say I got the whole love and relationship thing initially right.

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    1. I’ve been all over England, but there are definitely places I’d like to explore a bit more, like Liverpool, Yorkshire; basically all things “northern”. I only spent a small amount of time up there and would love to see more. As far as where I’ve always dreamt of settling down, that would have to be somewhere near Dorset or Cotswolds. Most likely Cotswolds. Truly my dream place. I quite like Bath as well. I would consider somewhere like Brighton for a while, but I feel as though it would get old for me after a while.
      I’ll have to go check your posts out. I’ve got a horrible bit of food poisoning today from a dodgy food truck yesterday, so I’ve taken the day off writing/posting blogs, but having a rest and reading some posts sounds quite nice at the moment. Thanks for reading!

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  2. Lexie, I have to say that you show an incredible amount of wisdom in the clarity with which you distinguish true ‘love’ from romantic fluff and infatuations. Very impressive! Loved this post. πŸ™‚

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    1. Also, I’m sorry to hear you didn’t have such a great family life growing up. However, I have a feeling that those tough experiences helped you to grow tremendously and have also perhaps influenced your beautiful writing. As strange as it seems, sometimes the most sensitive souls come to dysfunctional families to help balance those energies out. Thankfully, no matter what, there are always blessings to help us along the way, as was the case of your niece and nephew coming into your life. Sending you love.

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      1. Beautiful comment, thank you so much! I know that the tough times that I experienced as a child were nothing compared to the things that people all over the world experience, but we all go through our own struggles, and everyone deserves those beautiful little blessings to bring them happiness, I was more than lucky to have my sweet little niece and nephew. πŸ™‚


  3. I could totally relate to a lot of things you said. I am sorry to hear you had a tough time growing up. But then those experiences gives you the right amount of inspiration for writing. Those makes you different and I mean good different..

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    1. Thanks so much. I know I’m not the only one that had a lot to handle as a child, and I know that the things I went through are nothing compared to the horrors that other’s have had to experience, but I believe that all of our experiences make us who we are, the good and the bad alike. It makes us different, and as you said, different can be a great thing. πŸ™‚ Thanks so much for your comment.

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  4. The giant card scene from Love Actually? That was my favorite scene. I think that entire movie reinforced a lot of what I truly believe love is. That being said, I don’t think you have to have been in love to be a romantic. A lot of your writing conveys the thoughts of someone that knows the DNA of the emotion and what makes it tick.

    You listed David Tennant as a celebrity crush so assuming it’s safe to think you are a Doctor Who fan, then I think you’ll understand my following reference. The Doctor loves every one of his companions. Coming back for Amy Pond, the girl who waited, reinforces so much for me. Is it romantic love, necessarily? Nope. But it gives me faith that sometimes, the right person is just waiting for you to stumble and fall into them.

    As for your rough time growing up… It does suck. The last two years have been some of the hardest in my life, but I can tell you, without a shadow of a doubt, that enduring hardship makes you able to both appreciate and actually love someone so much better.

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  5. Like you, i have never really experienced love with another person. Which is probably why i fear growing old alone the most haha. I’ve had a few relationships throughout college and even a long distance one but it never turned into full on love. The one person i thought i cpuld love, cheated on me and being cheated on is a horrible feeling.

    But love, in the general sense, is like you say and can be found anywhere. And I’m sorry you had a bad family experience. I know what it feels like to not be loved, but not be in love. I really hope hope to find love one day. We are still young. Lol.

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    1. Exactly, there is still plenty of time for us both to find “the one” as they say haha. I am thankful that I have never been cheated on, and have a strong hatred for the entire act of “cheating” in a relationship as I had to watch my family fall apart because of it, so I know how horrible cheating can be for a person from watching my parents go through it. I truly hope that you have been able to recover and move on from it. Just remember that not everyone would do that to another person. πŸ™‚ I’ve often had the whole “is this love? This could be love” battle in my mind during relationships, but in general, I personally believe that love never ends. So even if I thought I loved previous boyfriends at the time, I know in my heart that I didn’t, because I don’t have any feelings for them anymore. Love is such a complicated little mess, isn’t it? But I still always hope I’ll be able to find it. πŸ™‚

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      1. I HATE people who cheat as there is no rhyme or reason for it. I am more of an open and honest person myself who has so much love to give, just no one to give it to yet. Haha. I am so sorry about your family though, I had the same problem in my family with my Godparents and that was a disaster. It seems we just keep finding more and more similar things about each other. :p BUt I agree, real love never ends as you keep doing things to make it grow or keep it strong.

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      2. It’s okay, things got horrible for a while, then slowly got better, and now we’re all at a point of normalcy again. It’s been a rollercoaster that’s for sure! I could write a Lifetime Original Movie over all the drama that unfolded haha. And exactly! And I’m the kind of person that thinks that if the “love” burns out and disappears, then maybe it wasn’t love in the first place, maybe it was just a bit of an infatuation. Lol.

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      3. Haha. But glad its all back to normal. I like to write comedy and drama movies myself. Mostly comedies! Sometimes if love burns out, it could of been there but just not strong enough. In order to keep it strong, both people need to communicate. However, there may have not been love in there in the first place. Usually you know it when it is love :p

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      4. Comedy is always nice! Haha well I’ve never known, so I suppose that must just reinforce the idea that I’ve never really been in love. I wrote a few posts a little while back about “ways to win my heart” and a few date disasters and things and a lot of the comments on those posts made me even more sure of how I feel about love haha, sometimes the people that comment on my posts are the most helpful people. πŸ™‚

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      5. Hopefully i am one of them! Helpful people i mean, not a date disaster. Lol. Maybe i should read that post. Lol. I try to have great dates but unfortunately, it takes two to make a great date so great. Lol

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      6. Well if you’d like to read them, feel free!
        Date Disaster- (plus a bit of ranting lol, it was a rough morning) http://adventuresoflexie.com/2015/05/24/sleepy-sundays-why-do-some-men-act-like-this/
        “Ways to win my heart” from my writing challenge- (this one was kinda fun to write) http://adventuresoflexie.com/2015/06/06/30-day-writing-challenge-day-6/
        You have definitely been a helpful commenter lol. And that’s very true, there’s only so much one person can do to make a date go smoothly haha.

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      7. This is fantastic stuff. Personal things can be the best writing. I love both of them. I believe to follow your dreams and be passionate about your desires. Also you’re right, being nice should be commin sense but sadly, no. Sorry about that date though. :/ I always try to make it memorable. Dating is hard, relationships are easy. Well, to me at least

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      8. It is true. Dating youre nervous, trying too hard over thinking, etc. Relationships is when you know each other and laugh, have fun, share things, etc. Just dont do anything stupid like lie or cheat or start to distant yourself for no reason.


    1. For me though, if those feelings are still there, that’s how you know it really was love! πŸ™‚ I feel like if those feelings go away completely, then it may not have been real love in the first place. But that’s just how I see things of course. Lol.


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